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Influencer Normalising Women’s Weight Gain After Inspiring Transformation

Over the years, women have been told so often by the media that we need to be smaller and skinnier, that we’ve been brainwashed to believe it. 

While the growth of the body positivity movement has helped us to stand up for our bodies and take up the space we deserve, the topic of purposeful weight gain for women is still foreign to many and just plain uncomfortable for some. 

There’s a small community of women, however, putting their fears aside in pursuit of feeling happier, healthier, and sharing their weight gain journey. One of these brave women is Amelia Goldsmith, or @milly_gfit to her followers. 

Having now finished her weight gain journey, we spoke to Amelia to uncover what made her start this journey and the challenges she’s faced along the way. 

 

Before the weight gain journey

Growing up, Amelia had always been active, having danced from the age of three. She’d also always had a slim build, and felt pressure from both dance culture and the world around her to stay that way.  

“I think from the certain dance environment, the pressure I put on myself and the social standards I surrounded myself with, it made me spiral down, what seemed like, a never-ending dark hole of diet-related thoughts, body dysmorphia, and the constant need to be slim and ‘look sporty’.” 

Over time, the pressure took its toll in some pretty scary ways, and it was only last year that Amelia realised the severity of the situation.  

“After 7-8 years of having to constantly battle against food-related thoughts in my head and calorie counting/restriction, it reached 2020 when COVID hit, which was when I reached my lowest; mentally and physically.” 

By this point, Amelia hadn’t had a period in 8 years and her friends were starting to express their worry about her too.  

“My best friend reached out to me a couple of times asking if I was okay which worried me and made me panic. After a few comments on my weight, I started to realise what I was doing and where I would be going if I continued, which was not going to make me happy or healthy.” 

It can be hard to see unhealthy thoughts and habits in yourself and it took Amelia seeing herself objectively to recognise that something had to change. 

“I actually remember doing a live workout in partnership with Myprotein on my Instagram, and I remember looking back on it and questioning if I really was as skinny as I looked in the video. That was one of the rare moments I saw my real size and not the size I always thought I was when looking in the mirror.” 

 

 

Making the change 

Not only did Amelia take the incredible steps to realise something had to change, but she also documented the entire weight gain journey on her Instagram account.  

“I finally built the courage to accept I needed to put my health first, which meant gaining weight.” 

While every journey has its ups and downs, Amelia’s weight gain journey has left her with so much more than she first imagined. 

“There are SO many positives! I’ve gained my personality back which I didn’t know I had lost! I’ve also gained back my humour; I find myself laughing a lot more. Pure, pure happiness, energy, incredibly better skin, hair and nails. My relationship with food is so free and amazing.” 

She’s also seen improvements in her relationships with others as well as herself and signs that her body is no longer just surviving, but thriving too. 

“My relationships with my family and friends are so much healthier and less toxic. My anxiety is actually a lot less, and I think that is also down to the growth in confidence. My period returned (!!!!) which means my body is no longer trying to ‘survive’, and instead it is living happily. My libido has returned as well as my interest in romantic relationships.” 

Hearing all these positives that Amelia has listed makes you realise just how much we put on the line to look a certain way and that when that pressure is removed, how much more of life there is to enjoy. This is definitely the case for Amelia. 

“Dreams that I have had for years are finally starting to come true and I strongly believe that’s because my mentality towards my body, food, exercise, calories, etc. was holding me back in so many ways.” 

 

 

Starting your own weight gain journey

Despite the positives, seeing your body grow after years of trying to shrink it can be daunting. Amelia’s proof that it’s worth overcoming the largely unfounded fears, though. She’s even put together some practical advice to combat challenges she’s faced along the way: 

– TRUST THE PROCESS! It is so easy to doubt the process and yourself, but it all comes together in the end. 

– Bloating is normal. Allow your body to digest the food you give it. 

– If you’re uncomfortably full at the start, know that it will pass. Your body and your appetite will adjust, just give it time. 

– Your body during weight restoration may be hard to accept, but remember that it’s temporary and the weight will distribute evenly. 

– Keep your head focused on yourself, don’t worry about people around you. Their goals won’t help you reach yours. 

 

Take home message

Gaining weight can feel like you’re going against everything society has ever told you about being “healthy”, but now at the end of her journey, Amelia’s proof that “healthy” is so much more than how you look. 

Shrinking yourself for the sake of society is rarely worth it but, almost certainly, looking after the body you’ve got and celebrating all the things that it can give you is far more worthwhile. 



Evangeline Howarth

Evangeline Howarth

Editor

Evangeline has taken part in competitive sports since a young age. As a qualified RYA Dinghy Instructor, she understands the importance of proper nutrition for fuelling extreme and endurance sports, especially due to her experience in Team GBR Squads and captaining and coaching her University first team.

In her spare time, Evangeline loves running – especially marathons. On the weekends, you’ll find her taking on water sports or hiking up a hill. Her favourite evenings are spent taking on a HIIT session or squats in the gym before digging into some spicy food and a ton of vegetables – yum!

Find out more about Evie's experience here.


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